And then our first son came along, who looking back I am pretty sure had undiagnosed reflux which led to practically no sleep his first thirteen months of life. The self-imposed expectations I had put on myself led to feelings of anxiety and failure. Coupled with being a first-time mom, I questioned everything I was doing – if it was the right decision or not, was I spending enough time with him, was the house clean enough for guests to stop by, etc etc etc. Sound familiar?!